Thank you Stu @ Something To Stu Over for nominating me for this June Honor The Father Tag. Thanks for sharing about your Dad. Praying that God would continue to bless your family and work in your relationship with your Dad. 🙏🏿
The Meaning of this Tag:
A father is someone who loves his child unconditionally, provides for them, protects them always, teaches them values, disciplines them fairly, and wants the best for them. For that, we should always, ALWAYS have respect for our fathers. They are created to bear the responsibility of caring for and protecting their families just as God calls them to do. Father’s Day is about reminding your father how much you appreciate him, but I hope this tag will perhaps remind you this month how blessed you are to have a father at all.
As I said before, this is a very hard day for me every year. My father and I have a very complex relationship. In fact, it is the polar opposite of my relationship with my mother. Growing up I felt abandoned, rejected, unloved, forgotten, and neglected because of his behavior that stemmed from alcoholism and what I believe could have been other mental health issues (don’t quote me, I’m not a doctor XD).
I will always love my father. He is a part of me, half of me to be exact. However, mustering the strength to honor or respect him at all has taken a long time to do. We talk sometimes over text, but not a lot. Some days he responds and I feel like we’re getting somewhere, then he vanishes like he always did. It has helped living a thousand miles away from him since finishing high school, but I have come to accept the pain I feel from my childhood will never go away. Recently, in the last week actually, he said something that has proven he’ll never change. I was trying to gain closure, but he continues to blame me for things that I may talk about in another post. Anyways, he may move on in his life, which is painful for me to watch, but that doesn’t change the past he continues to deny and blame me for.
If you have a similar situation, whether you have been abused, manipulated, abandoned, or rejected by your father (even someone else in your family), can I give you some advice that has helped me cope with such a toxic relationship?
You have a choice. You can walk away. You can block a number. You can say no. You can cut them off from your life. That doesn’t mean you don’t honor them, that just means you have enough respect for yourself to protect your heart and enough respect for them to love them at a safe distance. You can pray for someone every day and never talk to them again. Isn’t that better than subjecting yourself to more pain and building up further resentment that could become the poison of unforgiveness? I think so, because no one deserves to be abused in any way. You deserve love. If you don’t/didn’t receive that love from your father, always know you have a Father in Heaven who loves you more than your father ever could.
I hope you do have an awesome father though. If you do, give him a bear hug and be grateful to have the best protector you could have on this earth. If you don’t, pray for him, friend.
Here are the rules:
1. Thank the person who nominated you to participate.
2. Use the original featured image.
3. Copy and paste the introduction and meaning of this tag at the beginning of your post, along with the links to both creators’ original posts. *This rule is very important. Please, please link this post and Purple Rose’s post so that as authors we may be alerted when a tag is published. It also gives us proper credit, which is much appreciated. Thank you ❤
4. Answer the questions.
5. Nominate one or more people to participate.
6. Enjoy the rest of your month! 🙂
Here are the questions for this month’s tag:
1. What is your relationship like with your biological father, if anything at all?
My Dad actually passed away back in 2001. I was 24. He was only 55. I’ve lived a lot of years without him, but we had a pretty good relationship.
2. What is one thing you would change about your father if you could? What is one thing you wouldn’t change?
My Dad struggled with alcoholism and I feel that stole from his life in many ways. But thankfully he gave up drinking the same year he died and made a decision to accept Christ into his heart.
I wouldn’t change his work ethics. He was always a hard worker. He was great at yard work, and great at fixing things like cars and stuff around the house.
3. Who do you celebrate on Father’s Day (your father, step-father, grandfather, uncle, etc.)?
I usually call or text some of my family members who are Dad’s.
4. What was the most valuable thing he taught you?
I would have to say I got my work ethics from him (and my mom). They both worked really hard. He was a welder (He would always say 1st Class Welder lol) and worked at the shipyard. I can still hear the sound of his car starting up early in the morning to head to work. I admire him for working hard.
5. What is one thing he does that you would never do?
I choose not to drink. It’s a personal choice that’s not always easy because alcohol is so celebrated in society. However, I believe it’s God’s way of protecting me. So I just ask God for strength to stay on course.
6. How do you honor him on Father’s Day?
I don’t do anything since he’s no longer living. But I always remember him.
7. How has your relationship with him impacted the person/parent you are today?
I don’t mind assembling things so I guess I got that from him. He also liked to help people when he could, and I’m the same way. As far as parenting, I do remember he wanted me in the house by the time the street lights came on. (I grew up in the days where kids played outside and rode bikes.) I realize now this was his way of protecting me. I always try and protect my daughter too. Thanks Dad!
I am tagging…🤔🤔
FYI: There is no pressure to participate, but looking forward to reading your answers if you do…🤗